Relationships are complex and require focus and commitment. When they do not work out, stress and drama increase, affecting all aspects of life. Relationships can be frustrating and demanding of our time and energy, whether familial, romantic, platonic, or professional. However, the best relationships allow us to flourish.
Letting go of toxic connections
Letting go of toxic relationships can be one of the most challenging decisions we make. If we remain in relationships that do not align with our values or if our value comes with conditions, it is time to make a change.
Facing fear and self-sabotage
But here is the problem: it is often when we get to this point that our tendency towards self-sabotage takes over, and our conditioning takes control. What if we are making the wrong decision? What if we end up alone? Will we cope financially? What will my family say? What will my friends think?
The role of fear in holding us back
Our biggest obstacle to living our best life is fear—fear of being judged, found wanting, and rejected. Becoming stuck in fear means we choose not to find a way forward, consciously or unconsciously. We choose not to have faith that everything is unfolding as it should.
Recognising your strength
We fail to recognise that we have the innate skills and ability to navigate through adversity and come out with increased confidence, alignment, and appreciation of who we are and what we have.
What positive relationships look like
Positive relationships enable, empower, and energise us. If we are not experiencing these feelings, we must initiate a conversation to understand what is required to shift our relationship back into a positive space. If we cannot, it’s a red flag; is fear stopping us?
When it’s time to walk away
Remember, we cannot force change on others to suit our agendas. The bottom line is if you feel your presence is not consistently valued, it is time to call it quits. Not everyone will understand or support your decision, and that is okay.
Choosing where to focus your energy
However, we get to choose where we focus our energy. Therefore, we should shift it away from those who drain us and focus on those who align with our values and support and nurture us.
Attracting genuine relationships
We can attract genuine relationships and experiences that promote personal growth by prioritising our well-being and surrounding ourselves with positive influences. Making the conscious decision to distance ourselves from toxic individuals will ultimately lead us to a more fulfilling life of love, self-worth, and happiness.
Final thoughts: Know your unconditional value
Put simply, be clear on your unconditional value and recognise the difference between what you’re getting and what you deserve.
